Mother of the Year

When my first-born was only about 2 months old, I was cradling him in my arms & walking through a doorway where I accidentally whacked his little baby head on the doorframe.  A look of shock & terror came over his face & then he began to wail & so did I.  Things weren’t much better when the second came & I tried to trim those tiny, 2 week old, fingernails.  Almost done with the task, I accidentally got a hold of her skin & blood began to pour from her little finger.  Again, the wailing cries of a baby & a mother. 

I knew I would never win any awards for my mothering skills

I had no idea when I first started into this mommy journey that the only thing that could match my love for my kids, is the guilt I heap on myself for all the mistakes. 

As the mistakes continued on my part & the sinful ways of those little humans began to take root & swirl with my own sinful nature, I got a hold of a book called The Power of a Praying Parent by Stormie Omartian.  I devoured that book because of her honesty in how helpless she felt as a parent without prayer.  I loved every chapter & quickly highlighted, marked & dog-eared almost every page of that book.  And though its pages are tattered, I still turn to that book regularly.

The thing the Lord revealed to me through all that prayer is that I am not the determining factor in my kids life, He is.  He is the One who makes me “mother of the year”.   You see, when I am chasing Him, everything else falls into place.  I still mess things up, forget to wash uniforms, lose my temper & am sometimes just downright selfish with my words & actions, but Jesus, oh Jesus comes in & fills in the mistakes.  Fortunately, I’ve learned over time that my success as a mother doesn’t lie in my ability to never make mistakes. 

Being a mother requires me to yield to Him & to often apologize to my kids.  But in the mistakes, He is growing them to see that He is the only survival tool for this world & He is making me “mother of the year”.  Because He first loved me, I can love Him & in turn my family benefits. {1 John 4:19}  If I love God, I can love others.  If I get the first one of these 2 things right, I will not mess up.

The only goal of motherhood is showing my kids Jesus

My kids are almost grown now, but as I reflect on the years, some things stand out to me as being the most important things a mom can do:

Be Prayerful  ~ Jesus tells us in Mark 3, that the enemy can’t enter a strong man's house unless he first binds up the strong man.  How do you stay strong enough to keep satan’s plans away from your kids? You run to the Lord.  He is a strong tower where you will gain strength to squash the enemy.  Talk to the Lord, all day, about everything.  {Proverbs 18:10}

Be Transparent ~ Have some friends who will cheer you on in what you are doing right & lovingly call you out on what you are doing wrong.  This can only happen if you are transparent with others.  Trustworthy friends are vital for motherhood.  They are the ones who will keep you sane.  {Proverbs 27:5-6, Ecclesiastes 4:9-10}

Be Kind ~ To others, yes, but to yourself.  Women in general, but moms in particular, hold ourselves to standards so high we could never measure up.  We would never ask anyone else to meet the criteria we lay out for ourselves.  We need to give ourselves as much grace as we would give to others & allow the grace of God to penetrate our pinterest mindset.  {James 4:6}


Where do you need Jesus to step in to your parenting?  Tell Him today because He makes everything beautiful & you are a great mother!


Love,

Cara